To be happy you have
to have only what you do not buy or sell
What
is happiness? There are many definitions but it is impossible to find the best
because each one has the bias of who defines it. Happiness is personal, it
exists, but it is not a good or service for sale in the markets. It exists
through feelings, sensations, experiences such as friendship, love, inner
peace, empathy and other personal and human values. When someone tries to sell
you happiness as a commodity that is delivered in a quantity directly
proportional to the price paid, go away, run away and do not fall into the trap.
The lay or religious gurus, the experts in happiness, only seek your money and
take advantage of your weakness or mental or spiritual weakness.
Happiness
does not come when we get what we want, but when we enjoy what we have. Much of
what is wanted can be bought, and if that were the secret of happiness, the
rich would be immensely happy and the poor, overwhelmingly unhappy. I am poor,
many problems on my back, but I have many reasons to be happy. I almost do not
have money to buy what I want, but I enjoy the little and good that comes to my
life, like the friendship of four or five people.
The
search for happiness is not a trivial or frivolous matter. It is as important
and necessary as wisdom; In all times and cultures people have sought wisdom
and happiness. Nobody denies its existence and importance, nobody rejects it;
Although few know how to fully enjoy it when they have it, few know how to
search and recognize it, few know that happiness is linked to other conditions.
It
is possible to find hundreds of tips on happiness, theories with or without a
religious or mystical component, decalogues (Ten tips to be happy),
dodecalogues (Twelve rules to obtain happiness), pentalogs (Five keys to be
happy), heptalogues (seven infallible tricks to achieve happiness), etcetera
and etcetera. With slight differences in all the tips, it is discovered that
what is really valuable for life and happiness is what is priceless, what is
not bought, what is not auctioned in the market, is not sold by Amazon nor is
it on the shelves of Wal-Mart, Krogger, Carrefour.
I
propose to develop an indicator of the degree of happiness; It is arbitrary,
but as a game it is valid. At the end of the day all indexes are arbitrary,
depend on the interest and principles of the creators.
Index
of happiness
IF
= a * Love + b * Friendship + c * Gratitude + d * Forgiveness + e * Serenity +
e * Consciousness
Where:
a + b + c + d + e + f + = 1,
Weights
or weights, you assign them according to your priorities, values and
personal vision of life, the world, transcendence. For the score of the
"valuable things in life", which are priceless (love and others),
assign a scale: It can be from 0 to 10, from 0 to 100, or as in the case of the
school evaluation from 0 to 20, or from 0 to 5.
A
value of 0 (zero) indicates that you have not achieved anything in that
component. You have to reflect and discover the reasons why you are absent. If
there is no love in the equation, are you perhaps selfish? Do you meet or look
for the wrong people, for example, false friends instead of family and loved
ones? Does it confuse false and interested gestures with true love? You have to
think about this, and remember that it is not about buying or getting love with
bad arts.
If
you get the highest score, do not neglect it; There is a certain degree of
volatility, we must take care of friendship, we must maintain the principles
and rules that create authentic friendship. We must use time, energy, resources
to maintain love, friendship, serenity at the highest levels. The order and
harmony in the universe are not spontaneous.
Then,
tell me, what is your happiness index? What score and weightings do you assign
to love, friendship, serenity?