sábado, 13 de abril de 2019

To be happy you have to have only what you do not buy or sell


To be happy you have to have only what you do not buy or sell


What is happiness? There are many definitions but it is impossible to find the best because each one has the bias of who defines it. Happiness is personal, it exists, but it is not a good or service for sale in the markets. It exists through feelings, sensations, experiences such as friendship, love, inner peace, empathy and other personal and human values. When someone tries to sell you happiness as a commodity that is delivered in a quantity directly proportional to the price paid, go away, run away and do not fall into the trap. The lay or religious gurus, the experts in happiness, only seek your money and take advantage of your weakness or mental or spiritual weakness.

Happiness does not come when we get what we want, but when we enjoy what we have. Much of what is wanted can be bought, and if that were the secret of happiness, the rich would be immensely happy and the poor, overwhelmingly unhappy. I am poor, many problems on my back, but I have many reasons to be happy. I almost do not have money to buy what I want, but I enjoy the little and good that comes to my life, like the friendship of four or five people.

The search for happiness is not a trivial or frivolous matter. It is as important and necessary as wisdom; In all times and cultures people have sought wisdom and happiness. Nobody denies its existence and importance, nobody rejects it; Although few know how to fully enjoy it when they have it, few know how to search and recognize it, few know that happiness is linked to other conditions.


It is possible to find hundreds of tips on happiness, theories with or without a religious or mystical component, decalogues (Ten tips to be happy), dodecalogues (Twelve rules to obtain happiness), pentalogs (Five keys to be happy), heptalogues (seven infallible tricks to achieve happiness), etcetera and etcetera. With slight differences in all the tips, it is discovered that what is really valuable for life and happiness is what is priceless, what is not bought, what is not auctioned in the market, is not sold by Amazon nor is it on the shelves of Wal-Mart, Krogger, Carrefour.
I propose to develop an indicator of the degree of happiness; It is arbitrary, but as a game it is valid. At the end of the day all indexes are arbitrary, depend on the interest and principles of the creators.

Index of happiness

IF = a * Love + b * Friendship + c * Gratitude + d * Forgiveness + e * Serenity + e * Consciousness

Where: a + b + c + d + e + f + = 1,

Weights or weights, you assign them according to your priorities, values ​​and personal vision of life, the world, transcendence. For the score of the "valuable things in life", which are priceless (love and others), assign a scale: It can be from 0 to 10, from 0 to 100, or as in the case of the school evaluation from 0 to 20, or from 0 to 5.


A value of 0 (zero) indicates that you have not achieved anything in that component. You have to reflect and discover the reasons why you are absent. If there is no love in the equation, are you perhaps selfish? Do you meet or look for the wrong people, for example, false friends instead of family and loved ones? Does it confuse false and interested gestures with true love? You have to think about this, and remember that it is not about buying or getting love with bad arts.

If you get the highest score, do not neglect it; There is a certain degree of volatility, we must take care of friendship, we must maintain the principles and rules that create authentic friendship. We must use time, energy, resources to maintain love, friendship, serenity at the highest levels. The order and harmony in the universe are not spontaneous.

Then, tell me, what is your happiness index? What score and weightings do you assign to love, friendship, serenity?